Category: pronouns

nonbinarypastels:[Image Description: Three blue, green, and pink…

nonbinarypastels:

[Image Description: Three blue, green, and pink color blocks in a vertical row with text that reads “support genderfluid people / support genderfluid people whose names change with their gender / support genderfluid people whose pronouns change with their gender”]

just-a-sideblog: If you’re a demigirl and you prefer she/her pronouns it’s okay. If you’re a demiboy…

just-a-sideblog:

If you’re a demigirl and you prefer she/her pronouns it’s okay.

If you’re a demiboy and you prefer he/him pronouns it’s okay.

If you’re nonbinary and you prefer binary pronouns it’s okay.

Don’t demonize binary pronouns, they’re alright just as neutral pronouns.

soliloquies-and-sweets: it costs exactly $0 and zero cents to use “they” instead of “he or she” when…

soliloquies-and-sweets:

it costs exactly $0 and zero cents to use “they” instead of “he or she” when talking about a hypothetical person or someone whose pronouns you don’t know

Okay so i started questioning my gender today. i sent an ask to one of my mutuals who i haven’t known very long, and they answered and in the tags they said (about me) “they’re cool, you can go follow them”, and it made me really happy and now im confused cuz ive always identified as a cis female but now im questioning. am i overthinking it, or could i be agender?

Hi there, and thanks for the ask!

It’s certainly possible that preferring they/them pronouns could be a sign that you’re not cis after all, and therefore could be some form of nonbinary, including agender. Everyone starts questioning in their own way.

It’s important to remember that pronouns (like all facets of presentation) are separate from identity – a person of any gender (or lack thereof) can use any pronoun set. So pronouns don’t determine identity. Plus, there are lots of different nonbinary identity labels, and agender is just one of them.

I think it might help to try to consider why you felt so happy when that person used they/them for you. Maybe you were happy because you appreciated that they didn’t assume that they knew your gender based on your posts (which would likely be really rude and cisnormative), maybe you felt happy because you’re discovering that they/them pronouns suit you better, maybe you’re discovering you’re nonbinary, maybe some combination of those, or maybe there was a totally different reason. There are lots of potential explanations for your feelings!

Remember that it’s okay to be questioning. Take your time and think about who you are, how you feel, and the labels you use. It’s also okay to change your pronouns and/or labels, as many times as you need to, along your journey of self-discovery. If you want to talk with more people about what it feels like to be agender in particular, a great way to do that is to join us in chat. 

Hope this helps!

diskhorsedudes:I made a thing. Feel free to use it for whatever…

diskhorsedudes:

I made a thing. Feel free to use it for whatever you want, just give me credit, please!

endlessopportunities: you’re allowed to make mistakes with your gender.you’re allowed to identify…

endlessopportunities:

you’re allowed to make mistakes with your gender.
you’re allowed to identify one way one day and then decide you were wrong, that you didn’t feel that way.

you’re allowed to change your label as you discover more terms.

you’re allowed to change your pronouns,

you’re allowed to change your name,

as many times as you need to to be happy with them.

you’re allowed to let people know that you want to make that change, even if it seems like everyone is going to judge you for it.

it doesn’t mean that you were pretending or that you were faking it.

it doesn’t make you any less valid.

it doesn’t make you a bad person.

just remember: you’re working things out, that takes time.

queer-positive: Shout out to people who use neo pronouns. Shout out to people who make up their own…

queer-positive:

Shout out to people who use neo pronouns. Shout out to people who make up their own pronouns because the existing ones just don’t fit. People who use xe/xim or ze/zim or ne/nem or xe/xir or any other pronouns that aren’t he/she/they. You are not an inconvenience.You are valid and deserve to have your pronouns respected.

soliloquies-and-sweets:it costs exactly $0 and zero cents to use “they” instead of “he or she” when…

soliloquies-and-sweets:

it costs exactly $0 and zero cents to use “they” instead of “he or she” when talking about a hypothetical person or someone whose pronouns you don’t know

safenonbinary:Pronouns do not always equal gender! If you’re comfortable with a certain set of…

safenonbinary:

Pronouns do not always equal gender! If you’re comfortable with a certain set of pronouns, but it isn’t the one typically associated with your gender, that’s okay.
It does not mean you are faking, or anything like that. You’re allowed to use the pronouns that feel best for you

corvus-manor: you are more than the dead name they call you, you are more than the incorrect…

corvus-manor:

you are more than the dead name they call you, you are more than the incorrect pronouns.

you are whoever you say you are, and no one can take that away.