Category: reminders


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As most of you probably know, Oct 11 is National Coming Out Day and I just want to give a friendly reminder that even with tomorrow being the day it is, you are under no obligation to come out. 

It’s perfectly okay if you want to, planned or not, and if you do I wish you the best of luck and hope you have a large support network! 

If you don’t want to come out, whether it’s because of an unsafe environment, you don’t feel ready, or what have you– it’s okay to not come out! Your comfort and safety are important things to consider. 

So, no matter what you decide– to come out or stay in the closet for just a while longer– I support you and wish you comfort and safety either way <3


Respect others pronouns.

It should never be “I’ll respect their pronouns unless” or “until”

Always respect someone’s pronouns regardless.






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National Coming Out Day is coming up (October 11) and I just want to remind everyone:

1) Please do not out anyone (even if you “think you are doing them a favor.” Trust me when I say you aren’t) and make sure you don’t accidentally do so.

2) It is okay to be in the closet. Please do not feel pressure to/obligated to come out because there so happens to be a Coming Out Day. (Do it for you if it’s what you want).